But as the above quote says, your questions must first move the conversation forward in a way that shows you a couple can contribute to a conversation around a
positive shared future BEFORE moving into more challenging areas.
And that's what makes it so hard when you work with couples.
You go into working as a therapist dreaming about the couples you'll help and how amazing their life will be when they get their relationship back on track.
And then, couples arrive who resist your best efforts.
Reality sets in ...
Sessions start taking longer, your confidence drains and your focus shifts from a loving place to one of fear as you sense your work may not be successful.
You start to question yourself ...
Worrying about the long list of things you're not doing in a session ...
And what sets in is overwhelm and fear:
What if this career you've worked so hard to build isn't creating the changes that couples desire?
What if referrals dry up and your reputation sinks?